Firing a Nanny: The Right Way
Be honest. Tell your nanny exactly why they’re being fired. Be specific when explaining why you’re firing your nanny. Give examples of issues you’ve already addressed. Keep the conversation short and simple. Provide severance pay based on their contract. Never fire over the phone or email – do it in person.
Legal Considerations and Backup Plan
Check the laws of your state before you do anything, as every state has different employment laws which often apply to nannies. Have a backup plan when firing a nanny. For new parents, start the search process 4-6 weeks before you need a new nanny.
Immediate Grounds for Dismissal
While issues can be worked out with communication, immediately fire a nanny for: suspicion of abuse, theft, lack of attention/neglect, substance use, dishonesty, and unreliability.
Conducting the Conversation
When firing, do it face to face at the end of a workday when no kids are present. Be short and simple. Show compassion but don’t draw it out. The nanny may react emotionally – be prepared.
After Firing: Next Steps
What to do after being a nanny? The experience and qualifications you gain from being a nanny can open up career pathways in education, nursing, and social work.
Children’s Transition
How do you tell your kids your nanny is leaving? Explain that they’ll still be able to see the nanny, although not as frequently, if no one is moving far away. Let them know that even though the nanny may not be in their lives in the same daily way, they can still be a part of each other’s lives.
Evaluate Before Deciding
Before firing your nanny, refer to the contract, and try to work out issues with open communication. If you have indeed come to the decision that firing your nanny is the best thing to do, be clear about your reasons for termination, making your case calmly.
Guidelines for a Smooth Transition
Here are some general guidelines on how to let your nanny go smoothly:
- Consider whether you would like to maintain a relationship afterward for the children’s sake.
- Have another nanny in place before letting your current nanny go, if you, in fact, still need a nanny.